Any break up with someone you care about is extremely hard to deal with. One of the hardest parts is losing someone you consider a friend just because your romantic relationship didn’t work out as planned. Here are 8 suggestions as to how you can mend your relationship with the person you care about after a serious break-up.
1. Keep talking to each other
Honest communication is very important to a relationship after a break-up. It keeps both sides informed about the other and lends to understanding and, eventually, a clean slate. However, make sure you don’t smother them or tell them every time you’re feeling bad about things. You’re trying to understand, not hurt.
2. Give each other some space
You shouldn’t try to jump right back in to being friendly and seeing each other all of the time. It’s important to be able to breathe and have time to yourself so you can properly think about things and remove any sour feelings towards one another.
3. Talk to your friends
They can provide you with valuable insight. Even if they don’t know the ins and outs of your relationship, they can mention things that can get you thinking about how you and your significant other operate from a different perspective. Looking at things from a different view point can make all the difference in mending your relationship.
4. Remove some things that remind you of him or her
It’s not good to erase them, and don’t necessarily throw things out, but constantly wearing some trinket that makes you think of them or running into reminders about your past makes it harder to separate yourself from the relationship after break-up. Some separation is necessary to properly mend your relationship.
5. Set up some friendly meetings
A lunch date or some sort of reasonably short event can help to make things feel more natural. Don’t spend too long together; an hour or two is good. You just want to see each other and know that you can still be around them and feel okay. If you can’t do that, then you need to keep working at things and trying to heal until you can.
6. Write about it
It’s been said that the best way to get over a person is to turn them into literature. But it also helps to just put your thoughts down on a page. The exercise of writing down thoughts is remarkably healthy and can really improve clarity concerning your own mind.
7. Avoid the automatic rebound
Jumping straight into another relationship after a break-up, especially a serious relationship, can only stress the situation. If you really want to mend your relationship with your ex, don’t try to forget about them or fill a void by finding another person that you probably aren’t ready for.
8. Live for you
A lot of times, after a serious relationship has ended it can feel like you don’t know what you’re supposed to do or where you’re supposed to go. Just do things that make you happy and make you feel like you’re living life in a good way. Fill the space you used to call “us” with you.
The only way to mend a relationship after break-up is for both sides to feel alright about how things ended and where you’re going.