They say the first year of marriage is the most difficult! This is actually true, even if you lived together before marriage. Marriage is a deep and sometimes complex commitment that you cannot compare to other relationships. If you are looking for some helpful tips for surviving your first year of marriage, take a look at the tips below!
One of the most important things you need to learn is how to compromise! If you like to have a perfectly clean house and your spouse is not a neat freak, try to understand it and have him take on a few responsibilities as well. This will give you freedom to keep your house the way you want without being a nag.
2. Understand when the honeymoon phase passes
When you get married, it’s always new and exciting. It’s an amazing journey, even though a stressful one, especially during your wedding planning, experiencing your big day, and then spending romantic time away on honeymoon. However, when the honeymoon phase is over and the real life sets in, it can be hard to cope for many couples, since the excitement has totally worn off. So try only to look forward to the new adventures you will have together for the rest of your lives and stop expecting too much from your marriage life!
3. Let the little things go
It’s very important for you to pick your battles wisely. Those small quirks your husband has right now might be annoying, but you can learn to love those things about him the most with time. Just let the little things go and focus on the bond that the two of you share and how deep it is.
Money is perhaps the most common source of conflict in a marriage. I think having separate bank accounts can create a competitive and possessive attitude about whose money is whose and who should pay bills, which is destructive even in a happy marriage. Finances are the biggest reason many couples divorce, so if you want to avoid that, it’s better to have a joint bank account.
5. Have a personal spending allowance
Both of you need to have a personal spending allowance each month. You can eat out with friends or go shopping, and you know exactly that it’s your personal spending allowance. This has saved my spouse and me from lots of arguments.
Let me give you another financial tip to follow! Make a budget and stick to it! It’s important to know what your gross income and net income are and how your money must be spent monthly. Before you tie the knot you need to sort out groceries, bills, and discretionary spending in order to avoid hassle, conflict and headache!
7. Respect each other during the argument
During the first year of marriage you will have many happy moments and moments that lead to anger and frustration. It’s absolutely normal! But be sure to respect each other during the arguments. Just take a deep breath and respectfully and calmly say him how you feel. I promise you will be surprised how fast the arguments diffuse when you react with love and respect.
Although marriage is wonderful, it can be very challenging at the same time. Do you have any tips for surviving the first year of marriage? Share them, please! Who knows, you might be helping someone and not even know it!