After the last bite of cake has been eaten, the last song of the night has been danced to, and the last sip of champagne has been sipped, bride and groom are now husband and wife and the winding road known as marriage begins. A lot of people say the first year of marriage is the toughest; others think the first extreme bumps in the road surface somewhere within the first five years. The fact is, challenges will present themselves and at some point the “newlywed” phase will fade to reveal the relationship that is really there. Instead of worrying about or obsessing over inherent challenges, because there will be some, focus on these few simple exercises in your relationship to keep the romance alive no matter what stage of marriage you are in.
Learn something new together
Maybe you enroll in an art class, maybe you both want to learn to sail, or maybe you just want to try out a new recipe in the kitchen together. It’s important to keep learning and growing together so that there isn’t a grand opportunity to grow apart.
Plan date nights
Being married doesn’t mean there has to be an end to dating. Planning one night out of the ordinary every so often is a relationship refresher.
Make plans with friends, together or separate
It’s easy to get into the married life routine and perhaps forget about each of your personal and social lives. Make plans with friends whether it’s a girl’s night out, guy’s night out or a large group gathering where you can socialize independently from your spouse.
Have sex whenever
Life is busy, there’s no doubt about it. Many people say that after they are married, sex becomes less frequent. There’s no rule that states when a couple has to have sex. If you are too tired before bed, try a romp in the morning or maybe once you are both home from work.
Disagreements will happen. After all, marriage is signing up for a lifetime together. What you argue about will shift and change throughout a marriage. Learn in the early stages how you will communicate with your spouse to work through your disagreements to understand each other and reach compromise.
Whether you were just married within the year, just celebrated your third anniversary or have been married five years, think about these simple tips to reinstate the newlywed excitement. There are no hard and fast rules for a successful marriage so be creative and have fun.