Going through a tough break up is one of the hardest things you will endure. However, before the relationship went downhill, your ex made you happy and as if you had finally found the one. There is hope! Not all relationships have to end with two people who once had so much love for each other, suddenly have nothing but hate. If you have a desire to mend your broken relationship, here are 8 ways to get you back on track:
Whether the break up was mutual or one sided, each person needs to take time to get over it. Release all the hurt and anger surrounding how and why it ended and get to a comfortable place emotionally with the decision. For some people this process may only take a few days or weeks. For others it can be months or even years. There’s no right or wrong amount of time. It’s up to you.
If you initiated the break up then your recovery time may be shorter than your ex’s. If he/she wishes to cease all communication with you, then don’t try to convince him/her otherwise. You can’t force your time line on your ex.
Once you and your ex have gotten to a good place mentally and emotionally, reach out to your ex, but start small. An email or a text message asking how they are doing is a good beginning. Don’t hold long conversations, because there will be a natural instinct to talk about the past, which may not be the best idea at this stage.
If the break up ended because you cheated or did something wrong then you need to offer a sincere apology. If your ex feels like you aren’t sorry for hurting them, then reconciliation won’t happen.
There is a natural inkling, especially for females to confide in their friends and speak negatively about their ex. Then, when enough time has passed and you are no longer angry, your friends will still hold a grudge. There’s a possibility the information will get back to your ex. This will make it less likely they will want to mend the relationship.
If you plan on mending your relationship then it’s always a good idea to be respectful. Even if you are seeing other people, it’s better not to flaunt that fact in your ex’s face. Attempting to make them jealous may end up back firing.
When the time comes for you to have a discussion with your ex about why the break up occurred, be honest about any wrong doing. Lying will not protect them and when they find out the truth elsewhere, it will hurt worse.
The foundation is friendship
The key to mending a relationship, whether you plan on getting back together or just want to remain platonic, is to have a solid friendship as your foundation. Learn to talk as friends, respect each other as friends and hang out as friends. Any successful couple will tell you they are friends first above all else. Although going through a break up can be a difficult time in your life, each failed relationship teaches you lessons about yourself that prepares you for the next chapter in your life. These 8 steps will help guide you in fixing that which has been broken. Don’t panic! Take a deep breath and remember; your soul mate is out there waiting for you.
Falling in love can be exhilarating. The overwhelming sense of joy and comfort that comes from having someone special makes life seem perfect. Then it happens.
Your world comes crashing down when your lover suddenly isn’t there anymore and your left wondering if there’s any way to mend your relationship. Well, there is. Follow these 8 steps to fix that which has been broken and continue on your journey to everlasting love.