Itās so hard to break up a relationship especially when youāre together for a long timeā¦
1. Relax
Maybe itās just stress, maybe it was a bad time for a discussion, who knowsā¦ Take a minute to think if itās really over or you just need time alone in peace, to relax and be who you were when you fall in love. A break up is not easy or pleasant.
2. Give him a clue
You donāt want to hurt him. And if you know heās not gonna take it well, send him little clues that itās not working anymore.
3. Explain
You must give him reasons why you donāt love him as much as you did. Maybe you can work things out, but if you canāt, he needs to know why.
4. Donāt blame
Most of the time when a relationshipās over itās because you just grew apart. So thereās no need to find a victim; itās not healthy to feel that way. I know for experience that sometimes you blame him and itās easy for a guy (if it wasnāt his idea to break up) to take all the blame. āItās not you, itās meā doesnāt work either.
5. Be honest
I donāt want to sound like a cliche in this one but itās true, you have to be honest with him and with yourself. Let him know that itās over when you break up with him or either way heās gonna think he still has a chance when he doesnāt. And you need to be honest with yourself, if itās not good, itās not good, you canāt fool yourself into believing it is.
6. Take time
Breathe and be sure itās what you want. If it is, donāt let him change your mind if you donāt want to. Iāve seen this a lot with my friends, they are 100% sure they want out ātil they talk to the guy and he gets all emotional and you get emotional and then you regret not standing by what you wanted in the first place.1