Destiny or Choice? Why It’s Great to Stay Single Until 30


If you are nearing 30 and you are still single, don’t worry, there are a few reasons why it’s absolutely fine to stay single and free throughout your 20s. Even if it’s not your choice, stop worrying about your single status and start enjoying your life as it is.

I’m 25 myself, and I have felt the pressure of finding a man and starting my own family. I know how it’s hard to see your friends getting married and having children when you are single, but I also know there are many great benefits of staying single until 30. Here are some of them:

1. Peace of mind

Peace of mind is one of my favorite reasons to stay single until 30. Sure, not all relationships are consumed with problems, but there’s always the bad and the good in any relationship. There might be some disagreements about finances, family values, or living conditions.

You have to worry about numerous things and you don’t have time for yourself. Plus, you may experience high levels of stress on a daily basis.

When you are single, you know that the only person who could cause problems is you. And when you and your partner will get married after 30, you will have more experience to solve life issues and your marriage might be stronger and happier.

Though, my cousin and her husband got married at the age of 22 and they live happily for 10 years now. They both have peace of mind and they rarely fight.

2. Freedom

The most common reason why so many people stay single until 30 is independence and freedom. I love freedom and perhaps this is my major reason why I don’t want to tie the knot now. When you are single, you can make personal decisions, come and go when you want.

Even if you are dating someone, you are almost free. You can go out and have a lot of fun without worrying that your spouse is waiting for you now. You can also travel a lot and see the world, you are free and single so be sure to enjoy your freedom.

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3. Focus on your career

When you are not married, you can focus on your career and reach most of your career goals until 30. Sometimes a marriage can interfere with the career goals. While it’s great to have someone who can help you pursue your dreams, it’s better to make a career alone.

4. Less responsibilities

You don’t have to worry about cleaning, cooking, and running errands for your spouse. Plus, you don’t have to bear the responsibility of being a good parent.

However, you still have to learn to be reliable, responsible, and dependable. The best way to do it when you are single is by volunteering in the community, though there are many other ways such as caring for a family member or taking on a leadership role at work.

5. Pursue your dreams

Many older people always tell me to wait for marriage and kids. Once I asked them why and most of them told me that this can help me avoid a pre-30 and midlife crises.

When you will be in your 30s, you will have less regrets since you achieved most of your goals in your 20s. So pursue all your dreams now while you have nothing and no one standing in your way.

6. More personal space

Another reason it’s fine to stay single until 30 is personal space. As a single woman who lives alone, most of the time you’ll wake up and come home to an absolutely empty home. Yes, it’s not so funny, but you’ll have your own bed, your own fridge, and your own TV.

The only person who has access to all the things in your house is you. Frankly speaking, it’s not a reason for me to stay single until 30, but I know many women who like to have more personal space and who enjoy having their own little things like a bed or a fridge.

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7. Know yourself better

Staying single until 30 gives you more time to get to know yourself better. You won’t be able to love someone if you don’t love yourself. If you are unmarried in your 20s, take this time to learn your purpose in life and things that make you who you’re.

I personally look at the 20s as a perfect time for confusion, struggle, and growth. When you have your own family and kids, they can distract you from all those things and you might not have time for knowing yourself better.

The biggest mistake most single women make is thinking that there’s something wrong with them. While there might be a critical reason you are still single, there is nothing wrong with you! You are beautiful, unique, independent, and you will certainly meet your love one day.

Do you think it’s good to stay free and single until 30?