After the last bite of cake has been eaten, the last song of the night has been danced to, and the last sip of champagne has been sipped, bride and groom are now husband and wife and the winding road known as marriage begins. A lot of people say the first year of marriage is the toughest; others think the first extreme bumps in the road surface somewhere within the first five years. The fact is, challenges will present themselves and at some point the “newlywed” phase will fade to reveal the relationship that is really there.
Instead of worrying about or obsessing over inherent challenges, because there will be some, focus on these few simple exercises in your relationship to keep the romance alive no matter what stage of marriage you are in.
1. Learn something new together
Maybe you enroll in an art class, maybe you both want to learn to sail, or maybe you just want to try out a new recipe in the kitchen together. It’s important to keep learning and growing together so that there isn’t a grand opportunity to grow apart.
If you are newlyweds or have been married for years you need to SPICE UP YOUR LOVE LIFE. After awhile everybody gets bored with their life, just try something new a least once a month to keep them on their toes. You can just go from trying a new position to getting a sexy outfit, or even just changing your perfume. Anything to mix it up a little and get them to notice that you are trying, makes them feel like you care.
2. Plan date nights
This is especially important if you have kids, HAVE A DATE NIGHT! Make sure to get a babysitter and go out and have fun with each other and you might just find yourself falling in love all over again. It is important to spend time as a family but it just as important to have some time for yourselves.
Being married doesn’t mean there has to be an end to dating. Planning one night out of the ordinary every so often is a relationship refresher.
3. Make plans with friends, together or separate
It’s easy to get into the married life routine and perhaps forget about each of your personal and social lives. Make plans with friends whether it’s a girl’s night out, guy’s night out or a large group gathering where you can socialize independently from your spouse.
4. Have sex whenever
Life is busy, there’s no doubt about it. Many people say that after they are married, sex becomes less frequent. There’s no rule that states when a couple has to have sex. If you are too tired before bed, try a romp in the morning or maybe once you are both home from work.
DO NOT GO TO BED ANGRY! If you and your loved on get into an argument, work it out don’t stay mad at each other. The last thing you won’t to stand in your way is you own foolish pride! Make the first move and apologize for losing you temper, and this will help you work out your differences.
5. Communicate
The very first thing you need to do is to just KEEP TALKING. If you and your spouse stop communicating with each other they just might go in search of someone that will listen to them! Try to set a time that you and your significant other can tell each other what you are feeling, make it a part of your daily routine.
6. Remember important dates
All you men pay attention, REMEMBER IMPORTANT DATES. Nothing bothers a woman more than a man not remembering their anniversary. Even if you have to program it into your cell, remember the date! And make it a big deal, let them know that you are thinking of them on these specials days.
Disagreements will happen. After all, marriage is signing up for a lifetime together. What you argue about will shift and change throughout a marriage. Learn in the early stages how you will communicate with your spouse to work through your disagreements to understand each other and reach compromise.
Whether you were just married within the year, just celebrated your third anniversary or have been married five years, think about these simple tips to reinstate the newlywed excitement. There are no hard and fast rules for a successful marriage so be creative and have fun.1